ABy: Rick Boxx
大部份有經驗的講員都了解，把自己個人的失敗告訴聽眾可以拉近與聽眾的關係。唯一的問題是真的那樣做需要謙卑和某種程度的坦白，而這是許多人不願做的。這就是為何當我聽到企普．應格藍（Chip Ingram）在我們所主辦的「誠信資源中心Faith Incorporated」活動中演講時令我深受感動的原因。
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你是否聽過一位講員（或你們機構的領袖）坦白地承認他個人或專業上的錯誤，如同本文作者所描述？若是，你聽了他的認錯後有何感覺？ 你認為你自己能夠像他那樣誠實地承認自己的過錯嗎？為什麼？ 隱瞞個人的缺失對一個人的正直品格有何影響？若你聽到一位領袖或講員承認他所犯的錯，你會尊敬或輕看他？請解釋。 本文說不願誠實地承認過犯的主要原因是驕傲。你是否同意？
CONFESSION: GOOD FOR EVERYONE”S SOUL
By: Rick Boxx
Most experienced speakers understand communicating some of their personal failures can be endearing to an audience. The only problem is that to actually do that requires humility and transparency at a level where many people are unwilling to go. That is why I was so impressed in listening to Chip Ingram’s talk at a "Faith Incorporated" event we conducted in our city.
Speaking about the importance of personal integrity, Ingram confessed some of his personal shortcomings to his audience. He did not just reflect on incidents from the distant past, but also on some recent circumstances that he admittedly was not proud to acknowledge. Many of the listeners were surprised by his openness and candor as he confided to what was essentially a group of strangers.
Ingram”s sincere revelations were not only transparent, but also very instructive. As he told his story, citing his own failings to illustrate his focus on integrity, he did so in a way that served to provide a vivid example of humility for everyone in the meeting room. At the same time, it seemed as if he was granting his hearers permission to be genuine themselves, rather than hiding behind facades of pretense.
In the business world, we often strive to impress others by always attempting to cast ourselves in the most favorable light. We prefer to keep our personal sins and failures hidden in the shadows. What Ingram was doing, however, was applying an important biblical principle. Proverbs 28:13 teaches, "He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy."
Hopefully for Ingram, his openness enabled him to feel mercy from God as well as from the crowd. I know that for me, his account caused me to realize I have many failings of my own and have no room to cast stones or pronounce judgment on others.
Of course, there are many reasons for being reluctant to share our personal shortcomings and failures with others: embarrassment and shame are among them, but pride is perhaps the greatest inhibitor of all. We do not want other people to know our imperfections – despite our awareness that everyone is far from perfect. Nevertheless, pride drives us to try to prove to others that we are better than we really are.
It might help to consider two important admonitions we have from the Bible. The first is a simple but sobering declaration: “There is no one righteous, not even one” (Romans 3:10). The second also is found in the Old Testament book of wisdom: “Before his downfall a man”s heart is proud, but humility comes before honor” (Proverbs 18:12).
My own experience has taught me that we would be well-advised to heed this counsel from the Scriptures. If you have committed a personal sin at work, do not attempt to hide it. As difficult as it might seem, confession is usually the best course of action.
The wrongs we commit have an annoying way of revealing themselves, sometimes at the most inopportune moments. It might be wise to take a proactive approach, confessing failings candidly and in a timely manner, rather than waiting for them to be revealed in some other way – much to our disgrace.
Copyright 2010, Integrity Resource Center, Inc. Adapted with permission from "Integrity Moments with Rick Boxx," a commentary on issues of integrity in the workplace from a Christian perspective. To learn more about Integrity Resource Center or to sign up for Rick”s daily Integrity Moments, visit www.integrityresource.org.
Have you ever heard a speaker – or a leader of your organization – candidly admit personal or professional failings, as did the man that Rick Boxx describes? If so, how did hearing those revelations make you feel? Do you think you would be able to be as honest in admitting to your own failures? Why or why not? What impact does the concealing of one”s shortcomings have on that individual”s integrity, in your opinion? If you heard a leader or speaker confess about wrongs he had done, would your view of that person of that be raised or lowered? Explain your answer. It is stated that one of the major reasons for the unwillingness to be open and honest about failures is pride. Do you agree?
NOTE: If you have a Bible and would like to read more about this subject, consider the following passages:
Proverbs 11:2, 12:17, 12:19, 14:5, 15:33, 16:19, 22:4, 29:23: James 5:16