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你覺得在重要的決定上，不尋求他人的建議是一種驕傲嗎？為什麼？ 當你在面對一個問題或是需要做一個重要的決定時，你願意向人尋求幫助、聽別人的建議嗎？解釋你的答案。 你遇過像文章中提到的驕傲領導者嗎?當你看到他們不問他人意見就做決定時，有什麼感覺?在你的印象中，這樣的決定是否帶來不好的後果？ 要成為廣納意見的人，要做什麼努力？你認為女人比男人更容易接受別人的意見嗎？備註:如果你手上有聖經，想要知道更多與這個主題相關的經節，請參考下面的經節:
箴言19章20、27節，20章18節，24章5-6節，27章17節 ;傳道書4章9、12節; 提摩太後書2章2-7節; 雅各書1章5-7節
ADVICE FOR THE ARROGANT
By Rick Boxx
A study cited in the prestigious business periodical, Wall Street Journal, found people holding positions of authority, such as managers, tend to dismiss others’ advice when making decisions. The extensive research also showed, though not very surprising, that these leaders’ final judgments were frequently less accurate than they would have been if they had considered the advice available to them.
The reason for their reluctance to accept counsel, according to the authors of the workplace study, was overconfidence in their own judgment, a trait often known as arrogance. “No one is as smart as I am,” they believe. In other instances, some business and professional people in leadership roles are reluctant to ask others for counsel or help, fearing they might be regarded as “weak” or inadequate to fulfill their appointed responsibilities. They feel they must be in control. Have you ever met people like this?
Interestingly, this study also discovered that women were more likely to take advice than men. It seems that men, as they climb the corporate ladder and become more powerful, grow in arrogance and self-assurance. Confidence is good – we all need it to pursue our goals and responsibilities effectively. However, overconfidence often results in disastrous self-reliance, even recklessness.
Perhaps many women intuitively know what men are more inclined to forget: That a wise person still listens to advice. However, we do not require strong intuition to understand the need to consult others for advice and wisdom on key decisions. The Bible affirms this repeatedly. Here are some examples:
The peril of plunging ahead. “I have made up my mind. Do not confuse me with the facts!” Sometimes we take this approach to decision-making, determined to do what we want, the way we want to do it, even though employees, coworkers and peers might advise us to do otherwise. Proverbs 12:15 describes this scenario: "The way of a fool seems right to him, but a wise man listens to advice."
The problem of acting in isolation. Pride is a problem we all struggle with, in one way or another. Often it is pride that insists we have no need for the support or assistance of others. Unfortunately, this can result in failure, even disaster. This is why Ecclesiastes 4:10-11 makes this observation: “If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?“
The prize of trusting in others. When we consult others for advice, they might not always tell us what we want to hear. But different perspectives, as well as hearing alternatives solutions to the problems we must address, could bring about far better results. “For lack of guidance a nation falls, but many advisers make victory sure” (Proverbs 11:14). “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed” (Proverbs 15:22).
The power of working in shared mission. There is strength in numbers, the adage reminds us, and there truly is great value in working with others, sharing talents and experiences for a common goal. “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together…but let us encourage one another…” (Hebrews 10:24-25).
Copyright 2012, Integrity Resource Center, Inc. Adapted with permission from "Integrity Moments with Rick Boxx," a commentary on issues of integrity in the workplace from a Christian perspective. To learn more about Integrity Resource Center or to sign up for Rick”s daily Integrity Moments, visit www.integrityresource.org. His book, How to Prosper in Business Without Sacrificing Integrity, gives a biblical approach for doing business with integrity.
Do you agree that reluctance or refusal to seek out advice from others on important decisions is a result of a person”s arrogance? Why or why not? When you are confronting a challenging problem or needing to make a critical decision, how readily will you go to others for counsel and their perspectives? Explain your answer. Have you ever worked for arrogant leaders like those described in the research study? How does it make you feel to watch them making decisions without soliciting the input of others that could provide worthwhile insight? Can you recall a situation when this kind of leader imposed a decision that proved to have very adverse consequences? In what ways could you strive to become more open to receiving counsel from others? If it is true that women are more receptive to advice than men, why do you think that is the case?NOTE: If you have a Bible and would like to read more about this subject, consider the following passages: Proverbs 19:20,27, 20:18, 24:5-6, 27:17; Ecclesiastes 4:9,12; 2 Timothy 2:2-7; James 1:5-7