By: Dr.Rick Warren華理克博士
© 2011, 標竿人生。版權所有.節錄自華理克牧師的專欄。華理克牧師是多產的作家，他最受好評的暢銷書是：標竿人生。標竿人生已被翻譯成多國語言並行銷全球。書中倡導生命中有一個清楚、有計畫的目標能引導每日生活的重要性。它也被選為改變二十世紀的一百本基督教書籍之一。他也是標竿教會一書的作者。
思想 / 討論題目
『團契』一詞經常被用在宗教和人際的場合中，但是你看過工作場合中的「團契」是以甚麼形式表現出來的？ 你是否曾經或是現在正經歷很難饒恕一個人的景況。請解釋難以饒恕的原因。 你覺得「饒恕」和「信任」有甚麼不同？分辨「饒恕」和「信任」是否幫助你能饒恕一個人，但不是完全信任他，一直到那個人證明自己是值得信任的？說說你的答案。 饒恕一個人不僅是為了那人的益處也是為我們自己的益處。你覺得這句話是正確的嗎？請分享你的答案和原因。註：若你有聖經且想要看有關此主題的其他經文，請看：
DO NOT BE RELUCTANT TO SHOW MERCY
By Dr. Rick Warren
In real fellowship – a friendship or relationship in which mutual support is extended – people experience mercy. Fellowship is a place of grace, where mistakes are not rubbed in with constant reminders, but rubbed out and forgiven. Fellowship happens when mercy wins over justice.
Everyone needs mercy, because we all stumble and fall, and usually require help getting back on track. Because of this, we need to be willing to offer mercy to each other – and be equally willing to receive it from one another.
You cannot have fellowship, whether in the workplace, a community organization or a family, without forgiveness because bitterness and resentment always destroy fellowship. Sometimes we hurt each other intentionally and sometimes unintentionally; either way, it takes massive amounts of mercy and grace to create and maintain fellowship.
The Bible offers this wise admonition: “You must make allowance for each other”s faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others” (Colossians 3:13).
The mercy God shows to us should serve as the motivation for us to show mercy to others, regardless of the circumstances. Whenever you find yourself being hurt by someone else, you have a choice to make:
Will I use my energy and emotions for retaliation – or for resolution? You cannot do both.
Many people are reluctant to show mercy because they fail to understand the difference between trust and forgiveness.
Forgiveness is letting go of the past. Trust, however, has to do with future behavior.
Forgiveness must be immediate, regardless of whether a person asks for it. Trust must be earned and rebuilt over time.
Trust requires a track record. If someone hurts you repeatedly, you are commanded by God to forgive them instantly, for your own benefit as well as the other person. Lack of forgiveness can become an emotional cancer, a lingering, lethal source of bitterness.
However, you are not expected to immediately trust the person that has hurt you – and you are not expected to continue allowing them to hurt you. When people inflict pain in your life, they must prove to have changed over time before they can regain your trust. One of the best places for restoring trust is within the supportive context of a small group that can provide both encouragement and accountability.
But while you are giving people time to make positive changes, your first step should be to extend forgiveness, independent of whatever remedial action they choose to take.
Consider this insight from the Scriptures: “When people sin, you should forgive and comfort them, so they won”t give up in despair” (2 Corinthians 2:7).
© 2011, Purpose Driven Life. All rights reserved. Adapted from a column by Dr. Rick Warren, the author of numerous books, including the highly acclaimed, The Purpose-Drive Life, which has been translated into many languages and sold throughout the world. It affirms the importance of having a carefully considered, clearly expressed purpose to guide everyday life. It has been named one of the 100 Christian books that changed the 20th Century. He also has written The Purpose-Driven Church.
The term “fellowship” is often used in religious and social settings, but how have you seen fellowship exhibited in the workplace? Have you ever encountered a situation with someone when it was extremely difficult to forgive? Perhaps you are presently experiencing such a circumstance. Why was (or is) it so difficult to forgive the other person? What is your understanding of the difference between forgiveness and trust? Does it help you to realize you can forgive someone for harm they have done to you without having to put your complete trust in them – at least until they have proven themselves trustworthy? Explain your answer. It is stated that the act of forgiveness is as much for our benefit as it is for the offending individual. Do you think this is true? Why or why not?NOTE: If you have a Bible, consider these other passages that relate to this topic:
Proverbs 12:26m 14:7; Matthew 6:12-15, 18:23-35; Mark 11:22-25; Luke 6:37