沒有愚蠢的問題!
By Dr. Rick Warren
若你想要在生命中成功,不論是在職場、家庭生活或任何其他的個人追求中,學習提出問題--而且知道提出正確的問題--是你必須發展的兩個最重要的技巧:
除非你提出問題,否則你無法使自己與別人有區別。 若你沒有與別人有區別,你就無法做決定。 若你無法做決定,你就無法採取行動。 若你沒有行動,你就一定會失敗!
與普遍意見相反的是,提出問題其實是聰明的象徵。你愈聰明,你愈可能探測、考慮並提問。你總是尋求去學習、了解並成長。沒有愚蠢的問題。愚蠢的是當你知道你不了解某事時,卻不提問以澄清。當你考慮你的形象(我一定要顯得知道所有的事)勝於你的學習--這才是愚蠢!
威爾.羅傑斯是一位幽默大師,也是生活評論家,他曾說:「每個人都是無知的…只是在不同的領域!」同樣的,因為我們都有不同的經驗,我們可以從任何人身上學到東西,假如我們智慧地提出正確的問題。
聖經說:「人心懷藏謀略,好像深水,惟明哲人才能汲引出來」(箴言20章5節)。你從別人身上汲引智慧的方式就是藉著問問題。
世上有許多問題。以下是一些我們可以提出的問題:
延展的問題:「若….會發生什麼事?有更好的方法嗎?」 定義的問題:「現在真正的問題是什麼?」 研究的問題:「事實是什麼?我們需要知道什麼?」 解答的問題:「有哪五種方式可讓我們克服這個?」 優先順序的問題:「什麼是最重要的?」 小心的問題:「這個意見有什麼問題嗎?」 催化的問題:「我們現在要做什麼?」所有偉大的老師都明白提出問題是最有效的教學工具之一。若你是主管、經理、業務員、或父母,你可以試這個辦法:不要直接告訴你所領導的人他們應該怎麼做,而是藉著提出問題讓他們自己想。刺激他們的思考,並引導他們去採取你認為他們應該採取的行動。
若你真的想在這一方面成為專家,就找一本聖經讀新約的前四卷書(馬太、馬可、路加和約翰福音)。當你讀的時候,把耶穌問的每個問題都畫線起來。沒有一個人比祂更有效地運用問題去訓練、領導、教導、啟發並鼓勵。若你想要學習做好某件事,就從最棒的人那裡學習吧!
本文版權屬於「標竿人生」。本文改編自華理克博士的專欄。他寫了許多書,包括廣受讚揚的「標竿人生」。這本書被翻譯成許多語言,並賣到全世界。這本書斷言,有一個經過你仔細考慮且清楚表達的目標去過每天的生活是重要的。這本書被認為是改變20世紀的100本基督教書籍之一。他也寫了「目標導向的教會」和「聖誕的目的」。
思想 / 討論題目
本文作者寫道提出問題的重要性。你多善於提問?你是否發現人們常問你問題? 你認為即使人們在適合且應該提出問題的時候,還是不願提出問題的原因是什麼? 你是否發現你自己常常問別人問題,只是為了要從他們身上汲引智慧與知識?為什麼? 你問過最有意義或最重要的問題是什麼?請解釋。註:若你想參考有關此主題的其他聖經經文,請查看以下經節:
箴言6章20-23節,11章14節,13章13-14節,15章12、22節,19章27節、24章5-6節,27章9、17節;馬太福音16章13-20節
THERE ARE NO STUPID QUESTIONS!
By Dr. Rick Warren
Learning to ask questions – and knowing the right questions to ask – are two of the most important skills you must develop if you want to succeed in life, whether in the workplace, your home, or in any other personal pursuits:
• Unless you ask questions, you cannot make distinctions.
• If you do not make distinctions, you cannot make decisions.
• If you cannot make a decision, you cannot take action.
• If you do not act, you will fail!
Contrary to popular opinion, asking questions is a sign of intelligence. The higher your intelligence, the more likely you are to probe, ponder, and question. You are always seeking to learn, to understand, to grow. There are no stupid questions. What is stupid is not asking for clarification when you know that you do not understand something. When you allow concern about your image (“I must appear to know it all”) to take priority over your learning – that is stupid!
Will Rogers, a humorist and commentator on life, once said, “Everybody is ignorant…just on different subjects!” Likewise, because we have all had different experiences, we each can learn from anyone if we are wise enough to ask the right questions.
The Bible says this: “Though good advice lies deep within a counselor”s heart, the wise man will draw it out” (Proverbs 20:5). The way you draw wisdom out of others is by asking questions.
There are many kinds of questions. Here is just a sampling of types of questions we can ask:
• Mind-stretching questions: “What could happen if…? Is there a better way?”
• Defining questions: “What is the real issue here?”
• Researching questions: “What are the facts? What do we need to know?”
• Problem-solving questions: “What are five ways we might overcome this?”
• Prioritizing questions: “What is most important?”
• Cautioning questions: “What is wrong with this idea?”
• Catalyzing questions: “What are we going to do now?”
All great teachers understand that asking questions is one of the most effective teaching tools. If you are a supervisor, manager, salesman, or parent, try this approach: Rather than telling the people you are seeking to lead what you think they should do, engage their minds by asking them questions. Provoke their thinking, and seek to guide them to the actions you think they should take.
If you really want to become expert at doing this, get a Bible and read through the first four books of the New Testament (the gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John). As you read, underline every question Jesus asked. No one has ever been more effective than He was at using questions to train, lead, teach, inspire, and encourage. If you want to learn how to do something well, learn from the best!
© 2011, Purpose Driven Life. All rights reserved. Adapted from a column by Dr. Rick Warren, the author of numerous books, including the highly acclaimed, The Purpose-Drive Life, which has been translated into many languages and sold throughout the world. It affirms the importance of having a carefully considered, clearly expressed purpose to guide everyday life. It has been named one of the 100 Christian books that changed the 20th Century. He also has written The Purpose-Driven Church.
Reflection/Discussion Questions
Dr. Warren writes about the importance of asking questions. How good are you at doing this? Do you find people often asking question of you? What do you think are some of the reasons for people being reluctant to ask questions, even if they are valid and well worth asking? Do you often find yourself asking questions of people that you know simply to draw from their wisdom and expertise? Why or why not? What is the greatest or most important question you have ever asked? Explain your answer.NOTE: If you have a Bible, consider these other passages that relate to this topic: Proverbs 6:20-23, 11:14, 13:13-14, 15:12,22, 19:27, 24:5-6, 27:9,17; Matthew 16:13-20