痛苦 – 各種型式的痛苦都會激發我們去尋求改變。通常人們不會「看到火光」而移動，而是「覺得燙」才移動。
壓力 – 當醫生宣佈這可怕的消息：「減重50磅，否則你會死」，或老闆說：「表現好一點，要不然就炒你魷魚。」我們就會感到有壓力。但以壓力作為改變的動力通常不能持久。當壓力沒了－－問題解決了或危機處理了－－你的動力也就停止了，世界和你都可以恢復平常的生活。
遠見 – 當你可以看到一個更大的圖畫，或當你被一個挑戰性的願景或目標所激勵，你就有遠見。當你了解自己正在浪費自己的潛能，和自己所遇見的機會，你就有遠見。
不要等到理想的情況：不要說：「我要等到有一天，所有事情都安頓好再去做。」現在就去做！「有一天」的真正意思是「沒有一天」。思想 / 討論題目 想想你的生命。你是否陷入常軌，停留在同樣的地方，用同樣的方式做事情，承擔同樣的責任，在可預見的將來不太可能改變？若是，你是否滿足於常軌？為什麼？
BREAKING OUT OF A RUT
By: Rick Warren
It is easy to get stuck in a rut at work – to get stuck in the same place, doing the same thing, handling the same responsibilities. It can become comfortable because the routine is so familiar. And change can be difficult, because it involves venturing into the unknown and the uncertain. But settling into a rut is dangerous. As humorist Will Rogers used to say, “Even if you”re on the right track, you”ll get run over if you just sit there!”
When you find yourself stuck in such a rut, what does it take to get you moving? For the majority of people, there are three common motivators for bringing about change, whether they like it or not:
PAIN – Pain in any of its many forms can motivate us to seek change. Often it is not seeing the light that gets us moving, but feeling the heat.
PRESSURE – We feel pressure when the doctor gives us the dire news, “Lose 50 pounds or die,” or the boss says, “Improve on your performance or be fired.” The problem with pressure as a motivator is that it does not last. When the pressure subsides – the imposing problem is fixed, or the overwhelming crisis is somehow solved – your motivation comes to an end. All seems right with the world and you can resume life as usual.
PERSPECTIVE – Perspective comes when you become able to see the big picture, or when you are deeply inspired by a challenging vision or purpose. Perspective takes hold when you realize that you are wasting your potential, squandering promising opportunities that have come your way.
But we do not have to wait until we suddenly receive motivation from pain, pressure or perspective. As the Bible reminds us, “If you wait for perfect conditions, you”ll never get anything done” (Ecclesiastes 11:4).
Here are four steps for breaking out of a rut:
Assume responsibility for your own life: Refuse to be an Excuser (rationalizing your failures) or an Accuser (blaming others for your failures). Instead, be a Chooser and choose to break out of the rut you find yourself in.
Believe you can: Stop saying I can”t, and start saying I can. When you start saying that, you may be surprised to discover that you truly can.
Clarify what you really want: Write down specifically how you would like to change – or to see changed .
Do not wait for ideal circumstances: Stop saying, “I will do it one of these days, when things settle down.” Do it now! “One of these days” is really NONE of these days.Adapted from a column by Dr. Rick Warren, the author of numerous books, including the highly acclaimed, The Purpose-Drive Life, which has been translated into many languages and sold throughout the world. It affirms the importance of having a carefully considered, clearly expressed purpose to guide everyday life. He also has written a number of other books, including The Purpose of Christmas.
Think about your life for a moment. Are you stuck in a rut, staying in the same place, doing things the same way, handling the same responsibilities, will little or no likelihood of change in the foreseeable future? If so, are you content with staying in your rut? Why or why not?
When you encounter change, what is your typical reaction – does it frighten you, causing you to resist it, or do you welcome change, even embrace it? Explain your answer.
What was the most recent major change you experienced – did you initiate it, or was it prompted by other factors, such as pain or pressure?
How helpful do you find the four steps that Rick Warren suggests for breaking out of a rut? Which, if any, seems most applicable for you – or for someone close to you that needs to make a significant change?NOTE: If you have a Bible, consider these other passages that deal with this topic:
1 Chronicles 12:32; Isaiah 41:10; Jeremiah 29:11; 2 Timothy 1:7; Hebrews 12:26-29